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Help Meet: Christian, Wife, Mother, Friend, Lover, Housekeeper, Works Outside the House…

Word of the Day: Help Meet

A helpful partner, a lady, a help suitable for the husband

Let's go back to history who was the first lady to be called help meet? well, that lady was Eve. God is his perfect plan knows that our husband's need a help meet. Men are capable of accomplishing many things and it has been proven that they are, but the role of women will always be needed at home even if you or anyone refuse to accept it. That design was created by God many years ago so this word (help meet) is old as the dirt that you see in your backyard.

Genesis 2:18

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

In today's era, we see same-sex couples raising children and that was never part of God's plan. For the most part, you will find a couple consisting of two men raising children and having a female nanny at home helping them raise those children, very contradicting with their beliefs. The devil has put in their thoughts that it is possible to raise children without a mother but that will never be possible. It is so important to have a father and a mother at home. Sad to say but this is the reason why there are so many teenagers getting in trouble nowadays because they have no foundation in their homes.

Galatians 6:7

Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

Proverbs 1:8

My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:

The times have changed, the help meet of today is not the same as the ones from yesterday although in Bible times there were also ladies who thrived in the business industries like Lidia, Damaris plus others… In Today's era, we have ladies who are in high positions and there is nothing wrong with that as long as we don't forget God's order in the marriage. The word help meet has a great power in so many ways just imagine the privilege that the Lord has given us to be that person that our husbands can count on.

Ephesians 5:23

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Not every mother gets the opportunity to stay home so let's not take it for granted. I often hear ladies say that they get depressed or sometimes don't know what to do with that extra time. Christian ladies shouldn't have time to get depressed, running a house is not easy, there are windows to clean, floors to mop, children to train for the future and the list goes on… I was raised by my aunt my mother's sister and one thing that she taught me as a child was to stay home and not be visiting friends here and there because that leads to problems or gossip. I guess she knew that I wasn't going to be able to control my mouth or my ears :-). I have implemented that rule in my life and is not that I don't want to be friendly with anyone but my visits should always be with the purpose of visiting the needed ones or to pray with someone. Let's be thankful for this task of helping our husbands raise the next generation

1 Timothy 5:14

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

Often women have to work outside their home and that it is a hard task because the woman's heart will always be at home with the children. You will see working mothers struggling to keep balance, pray for them as it is not easy don't criticize them. I have personally done both, work outside the house and currently, I help my husband with a company that he shares with his father. In 2004 I quit my job in Los Angeles as a hotel receptionist because I wanted to focus on my children than in 2009 I was given the opportunity to work as a secretary for my Pastor and again in 2016, I quit that job to focus on my children who were teenagers. So life is not easy or perfect you just have to adjust it according to the need and stay focus on being available to your husband because at the end of the day we are a team working for the Lord.

Acts 16:14

And a certain woman named Lydia, a seller of purple, of the city of Thyatira,

God has entrusted us with so many roles in the house, we are not only the wives of our husbands but also the cheerleaders of our children, the healers to our children's wounds, the Uber driver, we own a hospital that is open 24/7 and this is not to shatter our husbands but to Praise our God who gives us the ability to accomplish all those tasks.

We also get to be the friend and lovers of our husbands, my husband is the type of husband who goes to work comes home and does not go out with other men at all. Life here in the U.S. is busy and we barely have time to rest so most of the time we don't have friends not because we don't want to but because we don't have time. We do have gatherings with church family and those are the people we get to spend most of our time more than our own family. So, at the end of the day, I am his friend the person he talks to after a long day.

The Bible says that He created Eve for it was not good for Adam to be alone. My husband hates to be alone, he does not like going to bed alone, or being alone watching tv, sounds weird but that is how he is. What a privilege to know that I was created for him my husband and I sometimes take it for granted. We are women who tend to multitask and we don't give our 100% to anything because we can do it all at once, but when it comes to our husbands we should always give ourselves 100%. Yes, that is our strength to multitask but if we are not careful we will find ourselves praying or having intimacy with our husbands with our minds wandering somewhere else.

When it comes to the intimacy the Webster dictionary describes it as "close familiarity or fellowship; nearness in friendship", meaning that is something private or exclusive. This means, that stays between the two the husband and the wife, therefore it is not appropriate for a wife to be talking with other ladies about her intimate life. With that being said we not only become our husband's wives but their lovers, lovers who delight in each other.

Ephesians 5:3

But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;

Hebrews 13:4

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled…

Hebrews 13:5

Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

Keep in mind that men go out every day and they see beautiful women all day, and this is why is so important for Christian woman to stay focus on reality. Let's not be like those ladies who are in their pajamas in the afternoon when their husbands arrive from work. Shower every day, wear the same cologne that way your husband will always remember your fragrance. Don't be like a teenager who has 20 colognes on the bathroom countertop trying to figure out what she likes. Also, pray for your husband not only for him to come home safe but also for him to guard his heart from any temptation.

Marriage is a beautiful design by God and let's not forget that our children are watching our behaviors towards each other. My husband and I always made time to attend the couples' retreat from our church and it is a joy now for us to see that our older son is implementing the same tradition in his life.

Proverbs 5:18-19

Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

Song of Solomon 7:8

I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples;

Life is about having order and more it is demanded from a Christian wife as we are the example to society, the Lord has placed His trust in us to guide our homes with the husband as our leader. There are always ups and downs in life so if you ever need someone to talk I am pretty sure that the right person will always be the Pastor's wife so please do not hesitate to find counsel when needed.

Matthew 12:25

And Jesus knew their thoughts, and said unto them, Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand:

1 Timothy 5:14

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

Conclusion: The more I talk about the help meet the more I realize that I am far from being that lady from Proverbs 31. What I know for sure is that the key to a successful marriage is submission and respect and that is something we should portrait in our homes so that our daughters can later on imitate.

*Please let me know if this post has been a blessing to you through a comment, for it would be a blessing for me to know.

have added some verses down below for those who are not sure if heaven is your future home. Please share with me if you accept the Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior through this post. I will be happy to rejoice with you!

That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.

10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.

11 For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed.

12 For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him.

13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.

Romans 10:9–13

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